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When growth is the only option...

The Evolving Self is an e-newsletter that reflects the belief that growth is a choice that can bring an ever deepening and expanding awareness of who we are and what we are here for. The reader can expect affirmations, quotes, book reviews, insightful commentary and tips that support the growth of the individual.

Affirmation: The spirit of my inner child lives through me.

Quote:  "And suddenly you just's time to start something new and trust the magic of beginnings." -Meister Eckart

Newsletter archives:

November 2017 - Leap of Faith/An Attitude of Gratitude

October 2017 - The Human Dilemma/No Singing Required

September 2017 - Extroverts vs Introverts/4 Types of Introverts

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As a Certified Aromatherapist, I am qualified to make custom blends to address various health concerns and skin issues. Many aromatherapy blends also have a quality of emotional support as well. If you are interested in custom blends and/or coaching along with aromatherapy solutions, please email me at

Example of a custom blend: I had a client complaining of intermitent acne so I made an Acne Facial Cleanser with Castile Soap and a blend of Lavender, Tea Tree, Lemon and Frankincense essential oils. Lavender is anti-microbial and is renowned for its ability to heal skin, Tea Tree is an excellent treatment for acne, Lemon is also particularly useful for acne and blemishes and Frankincense is anti-inflammatory and anti-bacterial.The client has been using the blend now for over a year and keeps coming back for more.

One of the fun things about custom blends is that the oils that are used are the ones you find attractive and fragrant with the effects you are looking for.


Many people, including myself, have, through much of their lives, accepted and tolerated unacceptable behavior from some others. Even with teaching Assertiveness for 30 years, I find that my old behavior patterns still show up now and then.

Fortunately, it doesn't happen so much anymore, I've become more genuine and natural in my assertiveness through the years, but these habits die hard. There was a time when I felt ashamed of how I allowed others to treat me while feeling somewhat mystified by how I continued to attract the same type of people. I don't know who said it, but it is so true, "If you live like a doormat, you're going to attract a lot of muddy boots." 

Lately, I've been contemplating why some people live like this and then one day something just kicks in. They say, "enough is enough." That moment when a current day pain outweighs the fear of an unknown future and they stand up for themselves. I call it the human spark. A place deep inside that gets activated by injustice and oppression and suddenly just rises up and speaks.

In the movie, The Holiday, the character, Iris, played by Kate Winslet has such a moment. She spent three years of misery with a "muddy boot" who lured her in, gave her just enough attention to keep her attached, and then makes a public commitment to someone else. Iris admits to being "pathetic." In her dejected state, she takes advantage of the opportunity to go on holiday and in the process makes new friends who help her see another part of herself. When the "muddy boot" shows up and tries to continue his emotional torture, she finally has the courage (gumption, in this case) to tell him, "It's over." 

For most people, there is a part of us, sometimes buried very deep, that has the courage and the strength to speak the truth regardless of the consequences.

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Bodacious Inner Child

I recently encountered my own inner spark as I was participating in an Interactive Guided Imagery session with a colleague and friend with whom I share these skills.

I have spoken about Interactive Guided Imagery many times in this newsletter, and I will say again, that whenever I'm stuck, uncertain, lost, blocked, etc., etc., etc., this process gets me moving again. I get the answers I need at the moment I need them and support from my own inner advisers and guides. It is incredibly powerful. In my recent session, I encountered what I call my bodacious inner child

This inner child is 5 years old. She has limitless energy, excitement about life and confidence in herself. During the session, I was once again reminded that this part of me which seems so distant in the past and sometimes lost forever is still alive and well and living inside me. With that reminder came the opportunity and invitation to tap into her incredible spirit.

In Interactive Guided Imagery you dialog with parts of yourself that are living in your subconscious but are still acting upon you. Sometimes, this is a good thing, but other times the positive aspects are being blocked or are simply overwhelmed by negative experiences. 

In my dialog with my bodacious inner child, she reminded of how it feels to be unstoppable, to believe so much in yourself that there are no obstacles and that life is full of joy. When I asked her how I can better honor her in my life today, she said, "Let me live through you!" And went on to say that she will show up as intuitive urges and impulses. 

Revisiting my bodacious inner child and intentionally bringing her energy into my present day has given me a sense of empowerment and excitement about life at a time when that is exactly what I need. What might you find in the recesses of your mind?

I work with people who are interested in personal growth and empowerment. If you would like one-on-one coaching or to explore what Interactive Guided Imagery might bring you, please contact me by clicking here.

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Jaqui Duvall works as a coach, mentor, trainer, facilitator and public speaker developing and delivering workshops, leading mentoring groups and working with individuals to help them identify and express their inner spirit and live a life of consciousness and intention. •  San Jose