Learn to express yourself and own your power. Assertiveness & Self Esteem Six Tuesdays February 9 - March 16, 2010 6:30 - 9:00 PM, Kaiser Permanente San Jose. Call 408-972-3340.

Stress Management, Eight Mondays February 1 - March 22, 2010, 6:00 - 8:00 PM, Kaiser Permanente San Jose. Call 408-972-3340.

The Narcissism Seminar will be offered again, in addition, I'm planning to offer an eight-week class on "How to Deal with a Narcissistic Person". Stay tuned, details will be posted here.

Powerful Affirmations and Prayers - Audio Program
Positive Affirmations & Prayers to Lift Your Spirits Audio Program.

Also available as an MP3 Download from Amazon

Affirmation: I have healthy, reciprocal, mutually nourishing relationships.

Quote: "What you feel, you can heal." John Gray

Have you ever taken a moment to pull out your luggage and look at what you've been carrying around with you? I don't mean the luggage you keep in the closet for vacations and business trips, but the luggage in which you've stored all your unresolved emotions and conflicts with other people.

I was reminded to do this myself recently and I didn't like what I saw. I found anger and resentment that I would really like to be done with. Its presence caused me some moments of reflection...I started asking myself...why is it still there, several years later? What is it I'm really hanging on to? and what am I afraid of?

I can only speak for myself, but one thing I've become very clear about is that the person who has ignored my needs and blatantly acted in opposition to my most heartfelt desires, the person who has hurt me more than any other is myself. In the situation I was contemplating, I had ignored my intuition and painted all the red flags green. I sacrificed myself for a blatantly narcissistic person who kept pushing when I had nothing left to give. That person didn't cause me to do that, I did it myself and not because I'm masochistic, but because I was acting unconsciously from my emotional programming. I'm not trying to excuse their behavior, but I am acknowledging that I had the power to prevent all of it, by being conscious myself. The answers were plainly written all over my thoughts, feelings and behaviors had I stopped for a moment to be present with them.

After my moments of reflection and introspection, I realized that it was time for forgiveness. Not just for the person who hasn't even been a part of my life for several years, but for myself. To acknowledge that I did the best I could with what I knew at the time and to commit to myself as I move forward in my life, to work toward a level of consciousness that will support the development of healthy, reciprocal and loving relationships.

The best way to effectively interact with others, is to be conscious of ourselves. If you would like to raise your own level of consciousness and work towards emptying your luggage, this work can be done through Spiritual Counseling and Coaching. For more information, see my website www.theevolvingself.com. In addition, there are several classes that may be helpful, such as the upcoming Assertiveness & Self Esteem class.

Newsletter Archives:
January 2010 - Narcissism: Why Should I Care?/The Call to Consciousness

December 2009 - It's Like I Never Said It/Why Do the Same Issues Continue to Come Up

November 2009 - What is Your Intention?/Surrender

LAST CHANCE to take advantage of the CD and Holiday Spiritual Counseling and Coaching Specials
I'm currently offering specials on my CD's and Spiritual Counseling and Coaching services. Learn more by visiting my new website: www.theevolvingself.com

I've been teaching classes for many years now. Much of the information I focus on is about emotional programming. This is a really big subject, but in a nutshell, we all have a blueprint from which we live our lives, it is our emotional programming. This blueprint is developed during the years of our childhood through every experience we have as we interpret the world around us, the people and ourselves. By the time we are 8 years old, 80% of our blueprint is set and has moved into our unconscious and therefore is the program from which we live our lives, the filter through which we see all of our experiences and the image we have of ourselves.

The power of this blueprint is not to be underestimated because ultimately it sets the tone of our self-talk, our inner environment and our behavior. It is the program from which we make every decision and perform every action. If we want to change how we are living our lives, how we feel about ourselves and our inner environment, then we have to change our blueprint. There is however, some good news/bad news about this. The good news is that even though this programming has moved into our unconscious, we can actually change it. The bad news is that it is not easy, it is after all unconscious.

Spiritual Coaching and Counseling is a good way to uncover our blueprint. February is the final month of my Holiday Special, Click here for more details or email me to set up a complementary 1/2 hour consultation.