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When growth is the only option...

The Evolving Self is an e-newsletter that reflects the belief that growth is a choice that can bring an ever deepening and expanding awareness of who we are and what we are here for. The reader can expect affirmations, quotes, book reviews, insightful commentary and tips that support the growth of the individual.

Affirmation: I create my own safety.

Quote:  "Safety is something that happens between your ears, not something you hold in your hands." -Jeff Cooper

Newsletter archives:

June 2017 - Emotional Sobriety

May 2017 - Challenging Established Beliefs/The Mind-Body Connection

April 2017 - Smile Therapy/Making Room



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Fear and Anxiety

Working not only in healthcare but in Psychiatry, I have a front row seat as I watch people desperately seeking help for Anxiety and Depression. Our healthcare systems are swarming with people afflicted by these conditions and the numbers continue to increase. There are a lot of reasons that people are afraid that I won't go into here, but the truth is people are scared and are desperately seeking tools to deal better with the stressors life brings them.

Of the instinctive coping strategies of the mind/body system, Anxiety or the Flight of Fight, Flight or Freeze, is possibly the most uncomfortable. Because of that, people employ coping mechanisms to deal with it. For many, these are compulsive behaviors such as cleaning, putting things in order, collecting things, playing computer games and such. For others, they try to control everything around them or project their fear onto others and justify all kinds of bad behavior behind the rationalization that someone else caused it.

When experiencing Anxiety, many people feel like they're going to die and develop fear of that outcome, many people drink alcohol or take drugs in an effort to distract themselves. I would venture to say that in all cases people simply don't feel safe.

I had an experience many years ago when I encountered some significant conflict with a family member and sank into a depression, possibly one of the worst in my life. Knowing what I know about Depression, I decided to set an intention and state an affirmation to encourage the release of the pent up frozen emotions I was perhaps, afraid to feel. It was: "I allow the free flow of emotions through me."

Be careful what you ask for, you might get it? What occurred over the next few weeks was exactly that. I had envisioned having myself a good cry, recover and be on my way. Instead, I was overcome with anxiety. Not what I bargained for.

I decided to do the best I could to simply be with the experience of Anxiety in a mindful way to learn as much as I possibly could from it. What I came to realize was that I was afraid I couldn't keep myself emotionally safe in the presence of a person who by society's standards should have been the safest person for me to turn to, but based on my experience was anything but. Over the next year, I attempted to break the mold of who I was supposed to be, how I was supposed to act and what my role was. I chose to re-define myself. As part of that effort, I had to find my own safety. Safety within myself from a source that I perceived as powerful and mighty. To do this successfully I had to be clear about what I believe in.

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Creating Safety

(Quoted from Christiane Northrup)

Dr. Bruce Lipton, author of The Biology of Belief, states that the cell membrane is the brain of the cell, not the nucleus. And the cell membrane is the part of the cell that is constantly feeding information from the environment to the genes. What is the environment? It’s the moment to moment biochemical changes created by your thoughts and emotions. And behavior. And that behavior — and those thoughts — are all based on what you believe.

That basically means that your beliefs are expressed through your cells and body chemistry. This is powerful information as these unseen processes effect what we think to be true about ourselves and the world. If you believe you are not safe, then you will behave in ways that support that belief and vice versa.

In their book, "How to Be Safe in an Unsafe World," Harold H. Bloomfield, M.D. and Robert K. Cooper, PhD discuss the attitudes and behaviors that make people more vulnerable to unsafe situations. They site studies showing that the person who is commonly singled out for assault often has a poor sense of self and self-esteem making them the more common target.

If you believe that we create our own reality, then these truths start to lead to the possibility of creating a sense of safety within yourself that people can sense and respond to.

One of the most powerful ways to put all of these ideas into practice is to use the power of visualization to create your own sense of inner and outer safety. The work involves aligning your desired outcomes with intentional images and positive feelings of gratitude.

I use this technique all the time. I wrap myself and my loved ones in a protective cloud of light. I create smoothe flights without turbulence. I arrive home safely from trips. I find parking spaces. I also use this technique to ensure that I have everything I need to live, shelter, clothing, steady income. I also use it to calm myself, to create a sense of inner peace and relaxation. I belive this is exactly what a lot of people are missing in their lives:  A way of finding safety within themselves.

I support people in learning tools to create their own sense of safety and utilize visualization to create desired outcomes. Please click here: to contact me to schedule coaching or counseling services.

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Jaqui Duvall works as a coach, mentor, trainer, facilitator and public speaker developing and delivering workshops, leading mentoring groups and working with individuals to help them identify and express their inner spirit and live a life of consciousness and intention. •  San Jose