presentsThe Evolving Self
When growth is the only option...

The Evolving Self is an e-newsletter that reflects the belief that growth is a choice that can bring an ever deepening and expanding awareness of who we are and what we are here for. The reader can expect affirmations, quotes, book reviews, insightful commentary and tips that support the growth of the individual.

Affirmation: I choose to engage in the present moment.

Quote:  "The point of power is always in the present moment." -Louise Hay

Newsletter archives:

May 2018 Body Chemistry and the Law of Attraction/Volunteer?

April 2018 - Depression Stigma/Contributing Factors

March 2018 - You Don't Have to Do Anything You Don't Want to Do

Certified Aromatherapist

As a Certified Aromatherapist, I am qualified to make custom blends to address various health concerns and skin issues. Many aromatherapy blends also have a quality of emotional support. If you are interested in custom blends to support your physical and/or emotional health and/or coaching along with aromatherapy solutions, please email me at

Liver Balm (Available on Etsy)

The liver has a big job to do, that of detoxing chemicals and metabolizing drugs that you ingest. That includes any chemicals you are exposed to that enter your blood stream through inhaling or ingesting. Liver Balm is a way of supporting the liver in doing its job. These are the ingredients with the following therapeutic properties: Marula Oil, Baobab Oil, Cranberry Seed Oil, Argan Oil, Rosemary, Mandarin, Helichrysum, Rhododendren, Sweet Orange, and Carrot Seed Oil.

Free-radical scavenging properties, regenerates cells, high levels of Vitamin E as well as a balanced ratio of the fatty acids, Omega-6 and Omega-3, all of which are extremely healing, moisturizing, significant levels of antioxidants, including phenolic compounds and tocopherols, anti-inflammatory and reduces muscle spasms, as well as unwanted bacteria, fungus, and viruses, supports a healthy digestive system and helps ease nausea. Reduces viral activity. Helps irritable bowel syndrome. Supports adrenals, cleanses the body, acting as a liver tonic that brings rejuvenation and strength 

Engagement vs Control

Are you bugged by certain behaviors you can't seem to control? Are you concerned about the consequences of some of these behaviors, like health issues, debt and relationship challenges. Yes, I've been reading again. The current book is called, "The Gift of Our Compulsions," by Mary O'Malley. I am intrigued and excited by what I've read so far and want to share about an approach to interacting with our compulsive behaviors called "Engagement."

First though, let me quote the definition of compulsion from the book which is:  "...engaging in any recurring activity to manage our feelings, an activity that eventually ends up managing us." (O'Malley, xi) Some people may not be aware of their compulsions, but I would venture to say that most people are struggling to control some behavior(s.) Whether it's eating, drinking, drugging, TV, shopping, sex, relationships, computer games, Facebook...fill in the blank, everyone has some behavior that is in the range of "compulsive."

In the ten years plus I've been writing this newsletter, I have talked repeatedly about the importance of feeling feelings and what happens when we don't. Unfortunately, as Henry Maudsley said, "Tears unshed will soon make organs weep." But the truth is most people never learned how to experience feelings in the body, process and release them. Because of the fact that many feelings are uncomfortable, like sorrow, anxiety, anger, frustration, powerlessness, many people distract themselves from feeling the full brunt of these emotions through compulsive behaviors.

What happens for most people is that they start to experience consequences related to their compulsive behavior, whether it is a health diagnosis, ill-fitting clothes, overwhelming debt, or even depression. When people feel out of control, they typically try to exert more control by doing things like fad diets, changing the type of alcohol, only watching TV after a certain time, avoiding people who are engaging in the behavior, etc, etc, etc. While there may be some initial success in controlling or managing the compulsive behavior, typically these efforts eventually fail.

Engagement, the skill that Mary O'Malley discusses in her book, involves approaching our inner world, including our body, thoughts and emotions from a non-judgmental, non-attached observer stance with curiosity. This taps into a part of the mind that is aware and capable of observing the ego-based mind that we are aware of as the constant chattering going on inside our heads as well as the emotions in our bodies.

Imagine meeting someone new and feeling curious and excited to learn about them. And when we're able to be completely present without judgment and truly see, hear and understand that person, they experience you as a witness and typically feel validated and a sense of belonging to the human race.

This enables us to be completely present with our inner world and when that happens, our compulsive behaviors tend to calm and soften because we are accepting and loving all the parts of ourselves. Which is, perhaps why we are here!

I help people learn to love and accept themselves exactly as they are, please contact me for Health & Wellness/Life Coaching. 

Looking for Volunteers

First, let me say a big Thank You to those who have volunteered thus far. Your help has been invaluable in helping me to move forward on these projects. There are two projects I'm working on for which I continue to need the involvment of others.

1. NLP practice volunteers.

I'm currently in a program learning NLP.  NLP stands for Neuro-Linguistic Programming. Neuro refers to your neurology; Linguistic refers to language; programming refers to how that neural language functions. In other words, learning NLP is like learning the language of your own mind! (reference: Wikipedia)

NLP is all about  helping people change their thoughts and behaviors to help them achieve their desired outcomes. Bringing about changes in perception, responsible communication and developing choices of responses. NLP works on the principle that everyone has all the resources they need to make positive changes in their own life.

I need volunteers who have some things they want to work on in their lives, with whom I can practice NLP techniques. You could consider it a type of coaching. If you are available for a block of 1 hour and are interested in experiencing NLP, please contact me.

2. Interviews

I am conducting interviews to gather information for the book I am working on. The subject is needs; an individuals experience and history with personal needs of all kinds including physical and emotional.

If you would be willing to participate in either of these activities, please contact me. For each of these activities, you may possibly learn some things about yourself and even possibly have the opportunity to make positive changes for yourself. Thank you!

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Jaqui Duvall works as a coach, mentor, trainer, facilitator and public speaker developing and delivering workshops, leading mentoring groups and working with individuals to help them identify and express their inner spirit and live a life of consciousness and intention. •  San Jose