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A new communication class is being offered at Kaiser-San Jose, Communication Skills for Individuals. This class is for those who want to expand their skills repertoire and work specifically on communicating effectively during conflict. The class emphasizes the use of physical and emotional boundaries. Wednesdays, March 31 - May 5, 6:30-8:30pm. Fee: $80 Kaiser members, $125 non-Kaiser members. To register: call 408-972-3340.

Find out what Narcissism is and why you need to know how to deal with it. Narcissism in the 21st Century: A Call to Consciousness Wednesday, May 12, 2010 6:00-9:00 PM. Location: Divine Science, 1540 Hicks Avenue, $35, $40 at the door.

In addition, I'm working on a series of workshops on Skills to Deal With Narcissistic People. Stay tuned for more details...

Powerful Affirmations and Prayers - Audio Program
Positive Affirmations & Prayers to Lift Your Spirits Audio Program.

Also available as an MP3 Download from Amazon

Affirmation: I am worth standing up for.

Quote: "When someone shows you who they are, believe them." Maya Angelou

Have you ever heard this? "When life kicks you in the butt, make sure it's kicking you in the right direction". When I hear this, it reminds me of a number of things. First, it's not a matter of if, it's a matter of when. We all have moments when life kicks us, it happens, having expectations otherwise is a miss-use of energy. Second, it's not personal. We didn't do anything to deserve it, nor can we really do anything to prevent it. Third, the only way we can make sure that we are getting kicked in the right direction is to know where we're headed in the first place. This is not necessarily a destination per se, but is a general sense of where we want to be, who we are and what's important to us.

Having a different 'reaction' to life's stressors implies a certain level of consciousness or self-awareness that only comes through regular practice. I'm a big proponent of journaling and affirmations. Used together they provide a powerful punch to our negative emotional programming enabling us to raise unconscious beliefs to awareness so that we can make different choices and that is what "the right direction" is really all about.

What direction has life been kicking you?

If you are feeling stuck in your efforts to work through one of life's 'kicks', you may benefit from Spiritual Counseling and Coaching. For more information, see my website www.theevolvingself.com. Or contact me to set up a complimentary 30 minute session to explore what Spiritual Counseling and Coaching can do for you.

Newsletter Archives:
February 2010 - I Forgive Myself/Emotional Programming

January 2010 - Narcissism: Why Should I Care?/The Call to Consciousness

December 2009 - It's Like I Never Said It/Why Do the Same Issues Continue to Come Up

There are a lot of reasons why so many people find it difficult to set boundaries. We don't want to hurt other peoples' feelings, we're afraid of making people mad or even worse losing their approval or love. We're basically afraid of conflict. Yet setting boundaries is an essential element of having a healthy relationship. It's a result of knowing where we end and other people begin.

Knowing the right words to say and the right way to say them is only the beginning. There is far more work to be done on knowing who we are, believing we have the right to set boundaries and developing loving emotional detachment from those with whom we've been enmeshed.

Several of my classes are designed to help with these aspects of learning to set boundaries and all that goes with it. Check out Communication Skills, coming up Wednesday, March 31 and Narcissism in the 21st Century: A Call to Consciousness, Wednesday, May 12 to learn more about some of the most challenging individuals with whom to set boundaries.

In addition, Spiritual Counseling and Coaching is another option to work on developing a healthy sense of self. For more information, see my website www.theevolvingself.com. Or contact me to set up a complimentary 30 minute session to explore what Spiritual Counseling and Coaching can do for you.