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The Evolving Self is an e-newsletter that reflects the belief that growth is a choice that can bring an ever deepening and expanding awareness of who we are and what we are here for. The reader can expect affirmations, quotes, book reviews, insightful commentary and tips that support the growth of the individual.

Affirmation: Everything I need is inside me right now.

Quote:  “One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious." -C.G. Jung

Newsletter archives:

February 2017 - Ignorance is Bliss/The Flip-side of Ignorance

January 2017 - Powerlessness/Forgiveness

December 2016 - PTSD and Aromatherapy

 

Certified Aromatherapist

I'm getting ready to launch an Esty Store with aromatherapy blends.There will be blends for pain and inflammation, energy boost, skin care and more.  Stay tuned for more information. If you are interested in custom blends and/or coaching along with aromatherapy solutions, please email me at jaqui@lifecompass.org.

 

 

 

 

 

The Inner Battle

As we were growing through the first 20 years or so and our need to be seen, heard and understood in our interactions with others was not fully met, we typically split off any painful feelings that resulted. Splitting off refers to a defense mechanism that enables us to continue on in our life and simply push away uncomfortable feelings relating to our experiences. Eventually the unresolved and unprocessed feelings develop into separated parts that float around our subconcious. By the time most people reach middle age, there is a significant accumulation of these parts. 

Internal Systems theory states that these internal parts interact with one another like members of a family. Imagine a typical day in your family as you were growing up. If you had siblings, like I did, each one of us had our own needs, desires, and perspectives and interacted positively and/or negatively (think sibling rivalry) with each other. Our internal parts act just like that inside us. The end result is that we have parts opposing each other. In its simplest form, it's like having an angel on one shoulder and a devil on the other.

These hidden parts are acting upon us all the time. They are the parts that sabotage our success and interfere with the ability to complete a task, the parts that prevent us from establishing viable relationships and business ventures. Or they can simply haunt our nights and days with memories and negative feelings that won't go away. They can prevent us from moving forward in our lives like having one foot on the gas and the other on the brake.

Interactive Guided Imagery is one of the most effective and powerful tools to help resolve this inner battle. I continue to experience it myself as a catalyst for self-awareness and growth. The power of guided imagery is in the fact that it enables us to give voice to and hear perspectives from these battling parts of ourselves that have been hidden beyond the level of our awareness.

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Re-Parenting the Inner Neighborhood

You could consider that the subconscious inner "parts" I was referring to above are your inner child or rather a whole neighborhood of children, aspects of whom got left behind when they were split off for lack of acknowledgement and connection.

Unless you had an objective adult helping you interpret life events as you were experiencing them, it's unlikely that you made it through childhood without some leftover residual of unmet needs. Since we are no longer children however, we can never go back to childhood and get those needs met through our original family system (not that we don't try, it's called co-dependency.) It is one of the most painful aspects of growing up. As an adult today, the only way to get those original needs met is to give them to yourself.

The goal of inner child work is to integrate the split off parts which we can only do by giving them what they need. What do children need? They need to be seen, heard and understood. This is done through re-parenting ourselves and connecting to all of our inner parts with love and caring.

In my experience, so much healing work really comes down to one simple (not easy) thing and that is to learn to love and accept ourselves, all of ourselves exactly the way we are. We can accomplish much of this work through Interactive Guided Imagery.

I work with individuals who are interested in learning to re-parent themselves using Interactive Guided Imagery. Please click here:  jaqui@lifecompass.org to contact me.

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Jaqui Duvall works as a coach, mentor, trainer, facilitator and public speaker developing and delivering workshops, leading mentoring groups and working with individuals to help them identify and express their inner spirit and live a life of consciousness and intention.
jaqui@lifecompass.org •  San Jose