A police officer comes upon a drunken man intently searching the ground under a streetlamp. He joins the search after learning the man is looking for his keys. After several minutes of searching and
finding nothing, the police officer asks, "Are you sure you lost them here?" The drunk replies, no, I lost them across the street, but the light is better here." (Source unknown)
I too, have spent many an hour searching my house, purse, car, etc. for my missing pair of glasses. When I ask my daughter if she has seen them, she'll point to me in a funny way, at which point I realize the lost glasses are
actually hanging from my shirt. Unfortunately, I need glasses to find my glasses.
When we are young, it is common to forget things. Many people pin notes to the their child's clothing, so that the teacher will actually get the note. When my daughter was small, I spent many an hour searching for her lost jacket,
lost toy, lost retainer. Perhaps there is a golden zone for memory when we mature and set up a plan for how to manage our stuff so that we remember where we put things. But then, there seems to be a decline again when we lose track of our
plan to remember.
It is also a common experience to go from the bedroom to the kitchen for a specific reason, however upon arriving in the kitchen, forgetting what that reason is. Sometimes if I just stand there, my brain will re-sync with my body.
Othertimes, I have to return to the bedroom to re-remember why I needed to go to the kitchen. I don't need to exercise anymore, I spend my days going back and forth inside my house.
Perhaps memory issues are a factor of aging but I also realize there are so many things overwhich we have no control and the best thing I can do is to simply surrender to that fact. Surrender is not the same as giving up. It
is actually a conscious choice to let go of the crazy-making that goes along with trying to make things happen the way I want them.
It is all fine and good to surrender when I'm letting go of glasses or a bluetooth, but what about when the lost item has great value? I recently misplaced (intentionally not saying "lost.") a wooden bead bracelet.
While it has very little monetary value, it has significant personal value to me as it was given to me by my late and very dear friend, Dan.
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