When there are so many things going on around me over which I have no control, turning my attention to what is in front of me to do is really helpful. Since I can't change or even effect what is going on
out there, I ask myself, what can I do right here? When I look around my house, there are plenty of "projects/tasks" to keep me busy. For example: Yesterday I cleared out the gutters on my house. Today, I'm
Emotional maturity is all about how I deal with things. While I know I haven't mastered this at this point in my life, it continues to be something I strive for. To achieve emotional maturity, for me means that I have to
give myself time and space to process what is happening around me. It doesn't mean that I don't have emotional reactions, it means that I use tools to make sense of it all. The most helpful tools to do that are talking to
another person who is well-versed in listening skills and journaling. Both of which are all about sorting things out.
Here are some self-care strategies that are also helpful: Calming, positive self-talk, making a plan and taking action
Calming, for most people starts with taking deep abdominal breaths. It is often the first thing on many stress management lists because to make better decisions, we have to engage the rational mind which is basically unavailable
when we are in the Stress System of the body. It's easy to do and you really don't need special training to learn how, just start doing it.
Positive Self-Talk involves changing the way I talk to myself. Common to most human beings is the negative and self-critical voice we carry around with us in our heads which is constantly commenting on everything we do and say. I have
worked long and hard to modify this for myself. I have learned that if I don't intentionally change this voice, I am condemning myself to live with the default I developed from childhood. No thank you. I now choose to be gentle with
myself and reframe my thinking to a foundation of gratitude. It takes work.
Making a plan is just what it sounds like. If I don't change the way I'm doing things, then guess what? Nothing changes. So, taking some time to consider what I want to do and be in the world and making a plan that reflects my
Taking action is, of course where the rubber hits the road. Sometimes, I find I have to start very small with incremental changes and work my way up to a reasonable momentum.
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