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When growth is the only option...

The Evolving Self is an e-newsletter that reflects the belief that growth is a choice that can bring an ever deepening and expanding awareness of who we are and what we are here for. The reader can expect affirmations, quotes, book reviews, insightful commentary and tips that support the growth of the individual.

Affirmation: I decide the course of my life.

Quote: "You can't escape the responsibility of tomorrow by evading it today." -Abraham Lincoln

Newsletter archives:

September 2018 - Perception of Power/Changing Your Perception

August 2018 - What I've Learned From Teaching Assertiveness for 30 Years

July 2018 - Positive Fantasy/Fantasy Gone Wild

Certified Aromatherapist

As a Certified Aromatherapist, I am qualified to make custom blends to address various health concerns and skin issues. Many aromatherapy blends also have a quality of emotional support. If you are interested in custom blends to support your physical and/or emotional health and/or coaching along with aromatherapy solutions, please email me at

One of the biggest issues, according to what I've heard from estheticians in maintaining the health and vitality of your skin is hydration. Not only are there dozens of oils that support the skin in maintaining hydration but a slew of other benefits as well. In addition, any oil that is produced by distillation has a hydrosol byproduct which, by it's very nature, is hydrating. Not only that, but choosing oils that are pleasant to you have many additional benefits to our health and wellbeing. 

I get many compliments on the subtle scents I carry with me in the form of hyrdrosols. Check them out!

The Statue of Responsibility

Our Declaration of Independence, states that "We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness." We also have a Statue of Liberty situated on Liberty Island in New York Harbor, given to us as a gift by France.

Most people recognize the reference from "The New Colossus" which is the source of the phrase engraved at the base of the Statue, "Give me your tired, your poor,Your huddled masses yearning to breathe free." This phrase represented a big sigh of relief for the colonists after the oppression they experienced at the hands of a distant government and also for refugees from other countries seeking freedom from an oppressor .

More than two hundred years after the colonists fought for and won their liberation and established their own constitution and government, I'm wondering if it is now time to erect another statue, a Statue of Responsiblity. In my latest read, it says that the #1 most important element in creating a successful life "is to take 100% responsibility for your life.

This is not new news, but it is BIG information. If you think about what that is saying that no matter what the circumstances, we take responsibility for the condition of our lives. We don't blame someone else for how much or how little money we have, how many friends we have, how stressed we are, etc. etc. etc.  The logic being that everything that is in our lives at this very moment is a result of all the decisions we made up to this point. We created our lives with those decisions just as we will create the next moment with our decision in this moment.

This can be a very hard truth to hear and to know because it seems to be a natural human tendency to blame someone else for our pain. As hard as it is to admit, I know I am responsible for the choices I make and that those choices have not always gotten me where I want to be. In fact, the deepest pain I have experienced in my life is as a result of choices I made. Possibly the greatest power we have is the power to decide.

We can't control the things life brings to us, however we have an impact on what happens next by the choices we make. What choices have you made in the last 24 hours? Are they moving you in the direction you choose?

A Statue of Responsiblity erected on the West Coast, perhaps, would be a reminder that along with the freedoms we enjoy (and still fight for) there comes great responsibility and that it is just as important as the liberty.

Gratitude Practice

I was asked to step in recently to give a presentation on the subject of gratitude. For many, gratitude is a way of life, not just a good idea. The power of a gratitude practice is that it can transform people's lives. It is an energy you can see and feel. And, no matter what happens in our lives, no matter how aweful and painful (at times,) there is always something you can find to be grateful for.

For example, I was leaving the Walmart parking lot recently and had an altercation with another driver. I realize that there are always two sides to every story, but I can declaritively say that nothing I did could possibly have warranted the reaction I got from the man in the bright red sporty car.

He had backed into a parking space and as I was approaching started pulling out. It startled me a little and I gently tooted my horn to make him aware of my presence so that he didn't hit me! Apparently, there is some horn language I'm not aware of. He honked back, like he's already mad? How can you tell this from the sound of a horn....? At any rate, he comes up behind me at the stop light, gets out of his car and angrily motions for me to roll down my window. I motion that I'm not rolling down my window at which point he bangs on my window, starts yelling, cursing, calling me names that I can't repeat here. I finally use the horn again, as a call for help, other people start approaching at which point he goes back to his car. 

What is there to be grateful for about this situation? First, and foremost, I'm grateful the man didn't have a gun. Just saying...

I'm also grateful for the approach of other people, young people, by the way, who were concerned and wanting to help, I'm also grateful that I walked, actually drove away unscathed and finally, I now have a story to tell of a personal experience with verbal assault which is very helpful since I just started teaching "dealing with workplace violence." 

There are many things to be grateful for in life, I'm grateful that the work I do makes a difference in people's lives. I'm grateful for health and vitality, for a loving family and good friends. I'm grateful that the majority of my life is good, really good and that there is joy and laughter and fun! What is on your gratitude list?

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Jaqui Duvall works as a coach, mentor, trainer, facilitator and public speaker developing and delivering workshops, leading mentoring groups and working with individuals to help them identify and express their inner spirit and live a life of consciousness and intention. •  San Jose