Understanding Fear & Anxiety Identify and change patterns of thinking that affect your feelings, moods and behavior. Six Wednesdays, September 16 - October 21, 2009, 6:00 - 8:00 PM. Kaiser Permanente San Jose. 408-972-3340.

Relationship Skills for Individuals To have a successful and healthy relationship with another person you must first have a successful and healthy relationship with yourself. Six Tuesdays, September 22 - October 27, 2009, 6:00 - 8:30 PM. Kaiser Permanente San Jose. 408-972-3340.

Use Affirmations to improve your life...
Using Affirmations to Raise Self-Esteem. . Learn to reprogram your inner critic. Thursday, September 24, 2009, 6:00 PM - 8:30 PM. Downtime Healing Arts, Los Altos 408-205-2783

Positive Affirmations & Prayers to Lift Your Spirits Audio Program.

Now available as an Amazon MP3 Download

Affirmation:I step into the flow of good that holds me, loves me and wants me to thrive.

Quote: "When we create peace and harmony and balance in our minds, we will find it in our lives." Louise Hay

The definition of insanity is doing the same things over and over again and expecting different results. Well, then I guess I am insane. There are some situations and people in my life that I've had to go to great lengths before I was able to let go. To learn a lesson, sometimes it takes a lot of insanity before sanity comes. Are you guilty of this as well?

There is one particular relationship in my life where this has been true for a very long time. I was once again faced recently with the reality that this person wasn't going to give me what I wanted from them. It felt like I had been stabbed in the back. AGAIN! However, the more I processed the situation, the more I realized that if anyone had stabbed me in the back, it was me. The other person was just being who they are. Why would they suddenly be different? It was like I was going to the hardware store looking for milk. It's just not available there.

What a gift this insight has been for me. I can finally let go of seeking approval from someone who can't or won't give it. Today, I have the awareness, the tools and the ability to make a different decision. Making a different decision for me means I find healthy ways of getting my needs met and perhaps even giving to myself. What a novel concept.

If you are challenged by relationships in your life and negative patterns that repeat, consider Relationship Skills for Individuals coming up September 22.

Newsletter Archives:
June 2009 - What Kills the Killer Instinct/I Choose Joy
July 2009 - Are You Stuck in the Freeze?/The Deepest Truth
August 2009 - I Learn More From Failure/You Can't Push the River

DID YOU CHECK OUT MY INTERVIEW? One of my clients interviewed me for her blog...

The Narcissism Seminar was a great success. Thanks to all! I will be offering it again soon, possibly as a teleseminar. Stay tuned!

Would you believe that using affirmations on a daily basis has changed my life? It might sound simplistic...how could saying positive things about yourself to yourself make that big a difference?

I know and have experienced what not loving myself looks like and feels like in my life. I have experienced the results of it in my relationships and my work. Learning to love myself has been a process which started with a decision but has been reinforced daily by saying loving things to myself in the form of affirmations. I have quoted this before from Louise Hay, "When we love ourselves, everything in our lives works."

Of course there's more to it than simply saying words out loud. How we say them and integrate them into our life is a huge factor. It's really a way of life. When you pray for patience, does God give you patience? More often you receive situations in which to practice patience. Well, this is also true with affirmations.

When I say, "I completely and totally love and accept myself exactly the way I am" guess what happens? Situations occur in my life that give me an opportunity to practice self love. Through these situations and practice, I learn to become more self loving. That is how affirmations have changed my life.

Join me in the journey for the upcoming workshop, Using Affirmations to Raise Self-Esteem. Thursday, September 24, 2009, 6:00 PM - 8:30 PM. Downtime Healing Arts, Los Altos 408-205-2783