Learning to Deal with a Narcissist Workshops Dealing with the Effects of Narcissism, Interacting with a Narcissist-Thursday, September 9, 2010 6:00-9:00 PM. Location: LifeCompass Training Center, Campbell. Fee: $25

Find out what Narcissism is and why you need to know how to deal with it. Narcissism in the 21st Century: A Call to Consciousness Wednesday, October 13, 2010 6:00-9:00 PM. Location: The Enlightened Mind, 209 E. Campbell Ave., Ste 220, Campbell, $25, $40 at the door. Call 408-205-2783.

Communication Skills for Individuals. This class is for those who want to expand their skills repertoire and work specifically on communicating effectively during conflict. In addition, this class emphasizes the use of physical and emotional boundaries. Six Tuesdays, Sept 21 - Oct 26, 6:30-8:30pm. Fee: $80 Kaiser members, $125 non-Kaiser members. To register: call 408-972-3340.

Powerful Affirmations and Prayers - Audio Program
Positive Affirmations & Prayers to Lift Your Spirits Audio Program.

Also available as an MP3 Download from Amazon

Affirmation: I decide who I am and what is true about me.

Quote: "We either make ourselves miserable or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same." Don Juan Journey to Xtlan

For many families, especially dysfunctional ones (aren't they all), there seem to be an unspoken, but very clear set of rules that all family members are expected to adhere to. Commonly, they are: Don't Feel, Don't Trust and Don't Talk.

Don't feel your feelings, don't be in touch with who you are, what you need or what you want. Don't trust other people, they are unpredictable and they will let you down and hurt you. Especially don't trust yourself because your perceptions and experience are WRONG. And for God's sake, don't talk about it. Do NOT reveal the family secrets to anyone. Maintain the image that EVERYTHING HERE IS JUST FINE.

If you relate to any of these rules, I want to encourage you to BREAK the rules. FEEL your feelings, dig down, open the valve and let them flow. They are what help us to FEEL alive--and provide valuable information for self-care. TRUST trust-worthy people and learn to be trust-worthy to yourself. Refer back to rule #1. The more you process your feelings, the more you will learn to distinguish your internal voices. And finally, talk to trusted friends and caring others. Express yourself, get help when you need it. Believe that you are worthy to have your needs met.

These same rules exist in families where there is narcissism, check out the upcoming Learning to Deal with a Narcissist Workshops and Seminar, Narcissism in the 21st Century: A Call to Consciousness

I also work with individuals one-on-one to help them learn healthy self-love, setting boundaries and much more. For more information, see my website www.theevolvingself.com. Or contact me to set up a complimentary 30 minute session to explore what Spiritual Counseling and Coaching can do for you.

Newsletter Archives:
August 2010 - Is it Good Self-
Esteem or is it Narcissism/Origin of the term: Narcissism
July 2010 - Cracked Open/Are You Shoulding All Over Yourself?
June 2010 - I Just Want to Love and Be Loved/Narcissism

The Narcissism workshop was amazing for me.  I came away realizing here are people, in real time, who struggle with narcissistic individuals daily.  I could hear what I have been feeling for so long, that non-stable feeling, that lack of self trust is real.  What I came away with was to heal I must embrace my past.  I must embrace that child who lived through this.  I must honor, believe, trust, and accept what that child allows me to learn of that time.

I do believe I was getting close to this though my own work but you provided a door to this reality.
Workshop participant

Find out what Narcissism is and why you need to know how to deal with it at Narcissism in the 21st Century: A Call to Consciousness Wednesday, October 13, 2010 6:00-9:00 PM. Location: The Enlightened Mind, 209 E. Campbell Ave., Ste 220, Campbell, $35, $40 at the door. Call 408-205-2783.

Check out the upcoming workshops...
Dealing with the Effects of Narcissism-Thursday, August 12, Boundaries-Thursday, August 26, and Interacting with a Narcissist-Thursday, September 9, 2010