presentsThe Evolving Self
When growth is the only option...

The Evolving Self is an e-newsletter that reflects the belief that growth is a choice that can bring an ever deepening and expanding awareness of who we are and what we are here for. The reader can expect affirmations, quotes, book reviews, insightful commentary and tips that support the growth of the individual.

Affirmation: "The voice of spirit speaks within me because I am listening."

Quote: "When something feels off, it is." -Abraham Hicks

Newsletter archives:

August 2020 - Changing the Rules/Setting Boundaries

July 2020 - Hidden Landmines/Self-Examination

June 2020 - The Stolen Voice/Loving Yourself

May 2020 - In Hiding/Journaling

Certified Aromatherapist

I am a Clinical Aromatherapist, which means I am qualified to work in a healhcare setting as an Aromatherapist and of course, to make custom blends to address various health concerns and skin issues. Many aromatherapy blends also have a quality of emotional support.

A few of the blends I have made recently:

-Anti-viral lotion (it helps hydrate amidst all the hand-washing)

-Hair thickener

-Muscle cramp oil

-Arthritis blend

-Hand sanitizer with or without alcohol

-B'Itch Balm (effective with hives)

If you are interested in any of these or custom blends to support your physical and/or emotional health and/or coaching along with aromatherapy solutions, please email me at

Contact me to get your own custom blend!

Reg Flags

Have you ever made a decision that eventually blew up in your face and then looked back and realized you would have made a different decision had you payed attention to the red flags. Whether you refer to it as Reg Flags, intuition or that still, small voice, the truth is each of us has an internal communication system that recieves information from our senses and more. That something more is often undefined, but many believe it comes from our connection to our higher self, the universe or the collective unconscious. Whatever you call it or believe about it, that communication source provides input to our lives and has a really good track record.

I can look back on my life and say without a doubt; every time I have ignored red flags it has backfired. I have spent some time trying to understand this...because wouldn't you want to access a source of information that has your best interest at heart and is always right? If that is what comes from listening to intution, why don't we do it all the time?

There are a few reasons I have identified:

  • We think we know better
  • We make something else a higher priority, like money or politeness
  • We drown out the voice with louder voices

Intuition is like a personal security system that is always on and ever-vigilant, surveying not only danger but everything else as well.

Messages we receive from intuition: Suspicion, hesitation/doubt, nagging thoughts, synchronicity, hunches, gut feelings, sense of danger, physical changes, direction

Intuition is not only about danger, it can be used for discernment as well. Discernment is about a sense of direction for making decisions. This is really powerful stuff. The kind of stuff people consult with a psychic or an astrologer for. That sense of purpose and destiny.

Continue reading below...


The definition of discernment is "To judge well." To me, discernment is about connection. Connection with inner self and higher self. It's about managing our inner world and in particular making sense of the information we have to make the best decision possible.

Many times in the past, I would recognize a moment when I was seeing red flags but didn't take the time to drill down and figure out what they meant.

I have been renting rooms out and sharing space with other people for a very long time. I recently had a really bad experience with a person. I am really clear that I am partially responsible for the issue because I had plenty of red flags indicating to me that the person was not a good fit for my home and I ignored them.

After that experience, I am understandably gunshy about bringing another person in to my home. I considered NOT doing so at all and letting my daughter use the room and take back my office which my daughter has been occupying since the last boomerang. 

It occurred to me that in taking back my office, I would potentially be opening up space in my life for the work I have largely abandoned. While I have continued to write this newsletter and take the occasional client, I have been working full time between two jobs so it has been a little challenging to do much else. However, I have felt called to expand my personal business again. Taking back my office felt like a call. I started realizing though that setting up an office at this particular time, doesn't mean it will be filled with people. Shelter-in-place is still in effect. Coaching is being done through Zoom or other on-line forums. Creating the space doesn't mean that I suddently have the motivation, the time and the inclination to do the work.

I decided that perhaps making room was more of a metaphor for the idea of making space in my heart and mind to do the work I feel called to do in this lifetime. With that in mind, I look around and consider, how can I make my current set up more condusive to the work? What do I need to do to create a new pattern, a new habit?  The whole idea of focusing on understanding intuition and discernment is to identify the actions that it is leading us to. This is the stuff that coaching is all about.

If you are interested in identifying the messages you are receiving from intution and discerning what they mean for your life, health and wellness coaching can be helpful. Click here to contact me. 

Click here to find out more
Jaqui Duvall works as a coach, mentor, trainer, facilitator and public speaker developing and delivering workshops, leading mentoring groups and working with individuals to help them identify and express their inner spirit and live a life of consciousness and intention. •  San Jose